Release the Reality Birthmothers and Adoptive parents don’t often like to hear what I have to say. I guess hearing what could possibly happen to their child is frightening. I don’t blame them. If I saw some future experiences of mine, I would be frightened too.     Adoption Comittee Now In Session See I have these adoption yahoo’s who sit at a table in my head and when I get tired, run down or just having a plain old bad day - they start to chatter like squirrels in an argument over nuts. No, it is not schizophrenia – thank you very much. It is more like a bunch of people arguing their point; who I have affectionately named: Rejection, Abandonment, and Sabotage, Unworthy, Confused, Identity, and Betrayed.     V is for Victor For many years I blamed being adopted for my DNA makeup. My eyes are brown…because I am adopted. I react like that…because I am adopted. I attract people like that…because I am adopted. I am not financial responsible…because I am adopted. I am not worthy…because I am adopted. Constantly pointing the index finger at adoption as the curse and not looking at the 3 fingers of victim-hood pointing right back at me.     Dude...I have the experience! When people first meet me they go into a bit of judgment, shock and adjustment. I look as though I am in my early thirties [thank you God] and am immediately sized up about how I could have enough life experience to be a Life/Leadership Coach.   How could I - in my short life - have enough understanding to grant me the abilities to Coach someone through life?      Harmony Through Conflict When I was three years old, my adoptive mother was holding me as we stood in line at the grocery store. A gentleman in front of us turned and said what a pretty little girl I was…I then replied with, “no I’m not…I’m adopted.”     When Friends Die For me it started several years ago with a phone call. My childhood best friend was killed in a car accident due to her own alcohol and drugs issues.     Balance...Have you ever surfed? When I was learning to surf, the most challenging part was finding my balance on the board. I tried a 8’5”, a 7’, a 5’ and would literally fall off the board just paddling out. It seemed the shorter the board the harder time I had. Considering I am only 5’2”, it really challenged my mind frame. The shorter the board, the better the balance. Right? Not!      Where Are Your Energy Drains? In order to create the life we want, it is extremely important, that we use our resources wisely! Being alive means there is energy flowing through the structure in our body – brain, heart, and nervous system.     Ready, Set, GOAL! Whenever you want to make a change in your life, the purpose behind your goal is more important than the goal itself.